First, don’t panic. Being served with divorce papers doesn’t mean everything is already decided—it simply means the legal process has begun. You still have the opportunity to respond, protect your interests, and help shape the outcome.

Here are the most critical steps to take right away:

• Read the papers carefully. They explain (although sometimes in generic or canned terms) what your spouse is asking for (custody, support, property division, etc.) and how long you have to respond. In Michigan, you generally have 21 days to file an answer if served in person and 28 days if served by mail. 
• Mark your deadline. Missing the deadline can result in a default judgment—meaning the court may grant your spouse what they asked for without hearing your side.
• Gather documents. Start collecting financial records (pay stubs, tax returns, account statements, property deeds, etc.) and anything related to your children if custody or parenting time will be at issue.
• Do not sign anything without advice. Sometimes spouses pressure each other to agree to things quickly. Signing without understanding the consequences can lock you into terms that aren’t in your best interest.
• Contact an experienced family law attorney immediately. The sooner you get guidance, the more options you have. An attorney can explain what the papers mean, help you prepare your response, and develop a strategy tailored to your situation.

Remember: Getting served is the start of the process, not the end. You do not have to go through it alone.